Petros wrote:I have occasionally mentioned my associate Aram -we had a long talk yesteday, my phone ran out of juice.
Recently he went for a simple massage, not something I would do in CA but it was a gift. Straightforward enough - but gradually he realized the masseuse/masseur was a M>F conversion or wannabe and was enjoying it perhasps too obviously.
He feels unclean, wondering if he should go back and raise a fuss - not I think wise in CA in 2017, if he has been violated.
I'm advising him to hold back, rember he was not an active participant, that it seemas to have been wholly mental in the imagination for the operator, and pray - including praying for the operator [anybody giving massagers in CA needs prayer, I think]. And we are praying for him to get past this.
JimShedd112 wrote:Perhaps there was no inappropriate touching, as assumed by you Ramblinman. Perhaps there was simply an obvious erection on the part of the masseuse. But, I agree Aram should not overreact to the situation.
Petros wrote:In point of fact, he had said a few things in the jocular flirtatious style one can adopt as a social grace, to which HE did not respond.
Then SHE seemed inordinately gratified by his left leg, which made him unconfortable. He swears there was no inapproopriate touch, just an inappropriate reaction, and that led him to look HER up.
I'm with Ramblinman: no matter the sexual orientation of the masseur/masseuse, if he's straying into sexualizing the experience, he has no business doing massage. "[M]assage is a healing art and not a sexual technique." (George Downing and Anne Kent Rice, The Massage Book)Ramblinman wrote:Regardless of orientation of the massage-provider, inappropriate comments are unprofessional.
I would not feel that I had done anything to cause it; that is blaming the victim.
I might get up from the table right then and there, say, "Your comments are inappropriate and unprofessional; this session has just ended".
Then one would get dressed and leave without paying of course. (realizing that this was a gift session in this particular case).
If Arom lacks the courage to say that, it would be a shame, because the masseur will think that it is open season on future patients for sexual come-ons or at least unwelcome intimate comments.
You'd think the guy would have learned etiquette and boundaries of propriety in massage school unless it is one of those red light district massage parlors.
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