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obsession or normal?

Postby geologist2007 » Tue Dec 04, 2018 1:05 pm

I have been growing in my naturist lifestyle in the past few years. My wife is very accepting of my home nudity and will occasionally join me - after sauna or hot tub for instance. Out of respect for her, I have not pursued any social nudity as she is not comfortable with me being nude around others. That's fine, I am willing to wait and see as there has been some softening in the past year. However, I am aware that I seek the 'social' aspect by looking for nudity on TV, Twitter or whatever. I avoid porn but seeing others nude in this way feels like it normalizes my nudity. I am concerned that because this desire is strong, and wonder if it is unnatural. I tell myself that nudity should be normal for me, yet seek to see any hint of it on TV or in real life. Am I alone in this? Is this part of my growing or am I going the wrong way?
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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby JimShedd112 » Tue Dec 04, 2018 7:25 pm

No, geologist, I don’t think you’re moving in the wrong direction at all. I also don’t participate in social nudity because of my wife’s objections to it nor do I see any softening on her part. By participating here and on other nudist sites I am able to achieve some degree of connection to other like minded people around the world. If it’s considered an obsession on my part so be it.

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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby Petros » Wed Dec 05, 2018 7:47 am

Assuming it is not clogging your brain and cutting into your living -

Before I began spending as much of my time as I could manage roaming the woods nude, far back as I can remember I was noting the pictures of Amazonian natives and American children living clothes free - and seriously envying them. I was seeking those out and longing for the chance quite a bit before erotic feelings could have been a factor.

So, I would say - unless you feel perturbed and threatened by it, worry not.
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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby webmeister » Wed Dec 05, 2018 1:17 pm

geologist2007 wrote:I have been growing in my naturist lifestyle in the past few years. My wife is very accepting of my home nudity and will occasionally join me - after sauna or hot tub for instance. Out of respect for her, I have not pursued any social nudity as she is not comfortable with me being nude around others. That's fine, I am willing to wait and see as there has been some softening in the past year. However, I am aware that I seek the 'social' aspect by looking for nudity on TV, Twitter or whatever. I avoid porn but seeing others nude in this way feels like it normalizes my nudity. I am concerned that because this desire is strong, and wonder if it is unnatural. I tell myself that nudity should be normal for me, yet seek to see any hint of it on TV or in real life. Am I alone in this? Is this part of my growing or am I going the wrong way?

geologist2007, great strip idea here. What you are describing is to the "T" what I am experiencing - the desire to experience social nudity with the quandary that my wife does not desire me to. The desire is very strong and I work to remind myself of how it would upset her if she found out. What Petros said is something to consider, not let this overtake our daily lives. I settle in for being nude as much as possible inside and outside the home.
I pray that my bride might someday know this strong desire and approve (even though I know there would be consternation if we discussed it) but I'm sure there are many larger things on God's plan than my desire to experience social nudity. :wink:
I was on a trip once and ready to run a Nude 5k the next day, when I mentioned it to the wife...that is how I know she was against it...very upset. Sometimes I think she would be ok with it if I do not share any details...
In looking at nudity, I have grown in the joy of just seeing a body as God's creation, without any lust. So again, if it does not consume us in the wrong way (satan's direction), should be normal to want to look... it is God given.
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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby Petros » Thu Dec 06, 2018 8:00 am

If you are right, even if there is consternation it will not break anything. Herself is as uncomfortable with nudity as I am comfortable. She does NOT like to see it or hear about it or think about it.

But since the subject came up we have had several good talks. I do not much care for spicy food or emotional talk and i will NOT eat guacamole. She does not care for eating tongue or excessive punning and will NOT - even alone - be nude. But we can talk.
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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby webmeister » Thu Dec 06, 2018 10:50 am

Petros wrote:If you are right, even if there is consternation it will not break anything. Herself is as uncomfortable with nudity as I am comfortable. She does NOT like to see it or hear about it or think about it.

But since the subject came up we have had several good talks. I do not much care for spicy food or emotional talk and i will NOT eat guacamole. She does not care for eating tongue or excessive punning and will NOT - even alone - be nude. But we can talk.

Wise thoughts Petros, my friend is avoidance, just need to find the right moment,,, :?
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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby natman » Thu Dec 06, 2018 1:04 pm

geologist2007 wrote:I have been growing in my naturist lifestyle in the past few years. My wife is very accepting of my home nudity and will occasionally join me - after sauna or hot tub for instance. Out of respect for her, I have not pursued any social nudity as she is not comfortable with me being nude around others.


Very much the same in our household.

geologist2007 wrote:I avoid porn but seeing others nude in this way feels like it normalizes my nudity. I am concerned that because this desire is strong, and wonder if it is unnatural.


I see nothing wrong with the strong desire to see people who are nude, doing "normal" things. After all, THAT is how God Himself designed us to be from the beginning. It is by definition, "natural". And I do not even see anything particularly wrong with depictions of husband and wife enjoying sex together. I feel the Book of The Song of Salomon (or Song of Songs) depicts "marital erotica" in a very positive and blessed light. However, I differentiate that from "porn" which depicts "casual", "non-marital" sexual relations and is generally VERY de-humanizing to women and to the God-designed marital union. So in my thinking "porn" or the desire to observe "porn" is "unnatural" (counter to God's design and will for our lives), and therefore, should be avoided at all costs.
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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby geologist2007 » Thu Dec 06, 2018 2:34 pm

Thanks all of you for your comments. I really wish I could discuss this with others. I have tried to feel people out for acceptance and have not found any kindred spirits yet. Still praying for that. I want so much for God to be glorified through me and not be distracted by lesser things. This is the one forum where I know there are like minded people of faith.
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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby geologist2007 » Fri Dec 07, 2018 3:34 pm

I do find it encouraging that others have traveled a similar path and have similar thoughts and desires. I don't feel quite so alone or indulging in sinful pathways. As Petros says
Petros wrote:Assuming it is not clogging your brain and cutting into your living


Managing and controlling myself, redeeming the time, all for the glory of Christ

webmeister wrote:I differentiate that from "porn" which depicts "casual", "non-marital" sexual relations and is generally VERY de-humanizing to women and to the God-designed marital union. So in my thinking "porn" or the desire to observe "porn" is "unnatural" (counter to God's design and will for our lives), and therefore, should be avoided at all costs


I'm not sure about viewing photos etc of people having sex no matter what their marital status is. I don't see it as a spectator sport. I think I need to avoid it as it is generally not profitable for me. I'm sure others can benefit if their hearts are right.
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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby webmeister » Sat Dec 08, 2018 10:31 am

geologist2007 wrote:I do find it encouraging that others have traveled a similar path and have similar thoughts and desires. I don't feel quite so alone or indulging in sinful pathways. As Petros says
Petros wrote:Assuming it is not clogging your brain and cutting into your living


Managing and controlling myself, redeeming the time, all for the glory of Christ

webmeister wrote:I differentiate that from "porn" which depicts "casual", "non-marital" sexual relations and is generally VERY de-humanizing to women and to the God-designed marital union. So in my thinking "porn" or the desire to observe "porn" is "unnatural" (counter to God's design and will for our lives), and therefore, should be avoided at all costs



Hmmm, I didn't say that...Natman did...site got us confused...I'm not as wise as him :)
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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby geologist2007 » Sat Dec 08, 2018 1:13 pm

webmeister wrote:Hmmm, I didn't say that...Natman did...site got us confused...I'm not as wise as him

Oops sorry! :bow: :bow:
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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby Maverick » Sat Dec 08, 2018 9:22 pm

You're not alone in how you feel. I sometimes find myself browsing through the gallery on this site and this site's sister site (N-C). I don't know if you want to call it "inspiration" or "hope" or something else, but I guess it's to remind myself that, yes, not only is nudity/naturism okay, it's wholesome and there are many perfectly "normal" (sane?) people who practice it, free of sexual deviances. And that there's a chance that one day, you and I both will be able to practice it uninhibited.
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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby geologist2007 » Sun Dec 09, 2018 5:37 pm

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Re: obsession or normal?

Postby New_Adventurer » Thu Dec 13, 2018 1:05 am

I heard one woman describe it this way: If a feather satisfies your needs, it is a fetish. If it takes the whole chicken, it is an obsession. I like it with a small feather.
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