The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

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The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby Bobby » Thu Nov 01, 2012 3:46 pm

My mom and sis frequently use the bathroom together and get dressed in each other's presence. My mom when I was still a kid would leave the bathroom naked to answer the phone while I was in the house or would walk naked to her room. My dad is quite a prude so I never saw him naked. Even now my mom doesn't mind going topless in front of me when she is getting dressed. I act the prude with them because that is the way I've been raised.

My mom and sis have a good relationship with each other. I spoke to my sis about this observation of mine and she confirmed it. She also said that it is comforting to see what changes her body will go through as she ages as exemplified by my mom. She said that their frequent exposures to each other makes asking questions about the body very easy and makes her feel secure in who she is and how God made her. She also learned that inner beauty is more important that outer beauty although my mom and sis are beauties on the outside too.

So, as I've pondered the effects of personal nudity in my life and that of my mom and sis, I came to the conclusion that I would like to replicate that with my sons one day when I am married and God is gracious enough to bless me with sons. I want them to see me nude and vice versa so that we could have a rock solid relationship with each other. I would like us to go on camping trips together and go fishing or hiking and stuff. They must feel free to talk to me about anything. Family nudity promotes that.

My only concern however is that my future wife (I'm still single btw) will not be open to it. How do I deal with that without forcing my will onto her?

What have your experiences been?
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Re: In my family

Postby natman » Thu Nov 01, 2012 5:13 pm

There's an old saying, "Too soon old, too late smart."

You are very fortunate that you have come to this realization early enough in your life to actually make a difference in the lives of your future family. Unfortunately, too many of us do not come to even think about these things until we are too old or it is too late to make much difference.

Congratulations!!!

I raised my natural children by not making a big deal about our nude bodies. They seem to have few hangups about nudity. After waiting until our kids were fully grown and out of the house, my wife decided she wanted a divorce. I then married a woman who had three children ages 8 thru 13. Although their mother had always had an open door policy and did not shy away from being nude around them, unfortunately, their father had been a very strong prude. I tried my best to get them to become comfortable in their bodies but much of the damage was already done to the boys. The oldest has struggled with porn. The younger has not as much of a draw, but is still somewhat shy about his body. The daughter is fairly comfortable walking around without clothing, and until very recently, has had little interest in sex (she is now 20).
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Re: In my family

Postby Jon-Marc » Sat Nov 03, 2012 3:56 pm

CnSnC wrote:I guess it would be better to look for someone who is a nudist or open to the idea. We lived in a clothed household until about 3 years ago. our oldest son was already out of the house. Lucky for me my wife was open to the idea and it has gone very well. our youngest is 11 now and nudity is no big deal around the house. we have also gone to nude beaches and resorts.


That's a very nice avatar. Is the boy in the picture the 11-year-old? I wish I could have had that with my daughters. Although I was comfortable being nude around them when they were little (and they had no problem with it), the world's influence soon took them over.
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Re: The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby Bobby » Mon Nov 05, 2012 2:26 am

I sometimes think about how I would like my family to function when I am married one day which is why I started this thread.

When I'm married one day I wouldn't want to be naked all the time since the type of woman I am looking to marry will most likely not condone constant nudity. I see myself as someone who likes to be naked once in a while especially when I reflect.

So, as I stated in my opening post, I would like to have a close relationship with my sons, if it is God's will to bless me in that way. And I would like to talk about everything including sexuality and the body. Interpersonal nudity promotes that.

However, there are many other activities that fathers and sons can do to bond them... My struggle is how do I introduce and practice this father and son nudity thing since I won't be going naked all the time?

I thought about camping and letting him see that I sleep nude. We can go skinny dipping together. But that has to be from a young age so that it is normal devoid of any sexually perverse connotations. Some fathers have gotten into trouble for skinny dipping with their kids.

MtnDewNudist, I read your post and your journey into naturism. The situation that I describe is somewhat similar.

I would appreciate if you all could advise. (I like being prepared for things and wing those for which I am not prepared.)

Thank you.
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Re: The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby natman » Mon Nov 05, 2012 6:09 pm

Bobby wrote:When I'm married one day I wouldn't want to be naked all the time since the type of woman I am looking to marry will most likely not condone constant nudity. I see myself as someone who likes to be naked once in a while especially when I reflect.


What is wrong with having a wife who enjoys constant nudity or at least, practical, comfortable nudity? IMHO, the more we normalize the nude human body, the less hangups our children will have when they inevitably encounter them.

Bobby wrote:However, there are many other activities that fathers and sons can do to bond them... My struggle is how do I introduce and practice this father and son nudity thing since I won't be going naked all the time?


I guess that is what I am talking about. However, you must also teach your children that it is okay to be nude under certain circumstances and not under others, so that would be a natural process.

Bobby wrote:I thought about camping and letting him see that I sleep nude. We can go skinny dipping together. But that has to be from a young age so that it is normal devoid of any sexually perverse connotations. Some fathers have gotten into trouble for skinny dipping with their kids.


I do not know of any, but I can imagine it COULD happen.
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Re: The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby Ramblinman » Mon Nov 05, 2012 9:29 pm

Bobby,

My upbringing was like the one you want for yourself.
It was good, but I wish dad had taken us to nudist camp instead of just being nude at home.
Textile influence is very strong and kids need all the help they can get.
Nathan is right. There's nothing wrong with a wife who is even more nudist than you.
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Re: The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby Bobby » Mon Nov 05, 2012 11:21 pm

Thank you for your responses, Natman and Ramblinman.

I will gladly welcome a woman who is more nudist or naturist than me, but chances are very slim that I will find a woman who is comfortable with her body and nudity as well as with us being naked around our kids (if God so blesses us) one day. But, I think that in my church denomination and in my culture it will not be an easy thing to find such a woman. So her condemnation of casual nudity will be a by-product of her upbringing. I may very well be wrong, you know, but this is how I perceive things at this moment in time.
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Re: The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby MtnDewNudist » Tue Nov 06, 2012 12:02 am

Bobby,
I will probably find women more open to the concept of naturism before marriage. There are some out there who while not practicing or initially open to the notion will entertain a discussion on it and then with a more open mind examine the benefits and risks of naturism and ultimately be more willing to accept it. However should you wait until after you get married it gets increasingly more difficult and women are less likely to join in or let you practice. Men who wait until their 40' or 50's to take up naturism will generally find even more difficulties as their wives will likely only consider it a perverse "midlife crisis" behavior and thus will not support it and be even less likely to join in.
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Re: The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby Bobby » Tue Nov 06, 2012 12:41 am

What you say makes sense, MtnDewNudist, since most Christian women have not been corrupted by pornography so the "nudity=sex" mindset will not be as strong.
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Re: The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby Larryk1052 » Tue Nov 06, 2012 7:03 am

Bobby, finding the right mate for life is challenging. I would strongly urge you to take your desires for a wife to the Lord in prayer daily. Be sure to include in your prayer that she have a positive attitude toward nudity or be teachable in that area.
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Re: The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby MtnDewNudist » Tue Nov 06, 2012 11:10 am

Larryk1052 wrote:Bobby, finding the right mate for life is challenging. I would strongly urge you to take your desires for a wife to the Lord in prayer daily. Be sure to include in your prayer that she have a positive attitude toward nudity or be teachable in that area.



Couldn't agree more. This is what I did and thus far I am not disappointed.
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Re: The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby Bobby » Tue Nov 06, 2012 11:39 am

That is what I've been doing on a consistent basis from the beginning of this year.
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Re: The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby Ramblinman » Tue Nov 06, 2012 12:11 pm

Bobby,

While European culture has its share of people who are prudes and don't like nudity,
I have met women from the continent who were both Christian and perfectly happy without clothes in the right setting (including at a secluded lake or river or a public beach set aside for such purposes).

God used circumstances to send Jacob many days' journey from home into the arms of a woman from his own people and she was the girl of his dreams.
His father-in-law was the father-in-law of nightmares, but God used this too to show him his grace and power. But that's not my point.
Go wherever God sends you, never tell God it is too far, takes too long or the task is too hard.
He will help you do what you need to do to find a godly wife and since the Lord has also put this on your heart: a wife who is not ashamed of the body God gave her and also one who knows that at the right time and place that nudity honors her Creator. Be faithful in prayer and when God says "take action", be faithful to act. And remember, most of what God wants us to do is already in the Bible, so be faithful to study the scriptures prayerfully.
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Re: The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby Bobby » Tue Nov 06, 2012 12:32 pm

Thank you for the encouragement, Ramblinman. My fear you know is that God will only let me marry when I'm in my 50's if I ever do get married. I'm far from perfect and just how perfect should I be until I do get a gf who will become my wife? That is one of the questions/concerns that I have. Will I ever know a woman, not just sexually but intimately, and stick with her until the day either of us dies or Christ comes?
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Re: The role of nudity in bonding parents and children-same sex

Postby Larryk1052 » Tue Nov 06, 2012 3:18 pm

Bobby, every man and woman worries about finding someone, the right someone. Just keep praying and trust God, He won't fail you. As for detail advice seek out a trust Christian friend, pastor or youth leader at church.
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