Step forward and a step back...

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Step forward and a step back...

Postby RMOlson » Wed Apr 18, 2018 12:43 pm

I posted this on another forum this morning. What are your thoughts?

I had what seems like a forward step with my wife and a step back with the kids teens. As I stated in my introduction my family tolerates my nudity. Monday evening at the dinner table my son said something about breast exposure of women being wrong (part of the step back). I began to question him on why he believes that, which prompted my daughter to leave the room (step back complete). Both of them know what I believe about the body being a gift of the Father and that it is not sinful but what we do in our minds that is where the sin emerges. Neither of my kids used to bat an eye at seeing me nude around the house now they tend to leave the room (Which is not necessarily a bad thing when they are arguing with each other, the arguing stops and they go into their own rooms.)

But, that conversation led to the one with my wife. (side note: I do not think she will ever join me nude outside the bedroom, but I will continue to pray for her.) In the conversation we talked about the kids and body shame and that I hope my conversations about the goodness of the human body and my example of nudity will counteract what they are learning socially. We talked about what she has read on the MCAG web site. We talked about how as a society that hides simple nudity but glorifies porn that we are teaching this generation of boys to see girls and women as objects for their personal pleasure.

We are teaching our girls that they need to do what ever and be whatever the boys like, thus being just an object or an orifice for the boys. We also talked about how she doesn't want our daughter to be a "floozy" or dress like one. That she doesn't want her to attract that kind of attention, and she said "neither do you". I said basically, A is a beautiful young girl and boys are interested in her no matter how much she puts on or takes off, but it is not her responsibility to police the boy's minds which is where sin is born. And, I will confront anyone who expresses those thought as I did with our oldest.

Now the step forward, we have talked about all this before but this time she said that she was sorry that she has not been more supportive and will try to be more supportive and not just tolerate in the future. I expressed my interest in making a benefits of nudity reference book, she thought it may be beneficial. Anyway, that is a big step forward for my wife.
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Re: Step forward and a step back...

Postby natman » Thu Apr 19, 2018 12:39 pm

Baby steps are good.

I don't know about a book, but I wrote an article that was published in Saving Advice in 2007 that talked about the benefits of Nudism...

See: https://www.savingadvice.com/articles/2 ... money.html

Perhaps you can expand on this theme. :D
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Re: Step forward and a step back...

Postby RMOlson » Thu Apr 19, 2018 1:11 pm

Thanks Nathan,
I will be adding a printout of that article to my notebook.
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Re: Step forward and a step back...

Postby Maverick » Sat Apr 21, 2018 3:30 pm

Hey Randy,

You might look into David Hatton's books on Amazon. He's one of the contributors at MCAG but has written two books outside that site where he delves deeper into the history of Christian nudity, arguments against prudishness, and so forth.

His first book is Meeting at the River: A Tale of Naked Truth and his second, more apologetic-ish book is "Who Said You Were Naked?": Reflections on Body Acceptance. They are available in paperback and the Kindle e-book format.

If you're interested, I should be able to send you the snippets of each that I highlighted on my Kindle (the parts that I thought were really significant) that you could add to your notebook without buying these books right away. Just let me know.

Praise God for the step forward with your wife, and the opportunity y'all have to discuss this together and with your kids!

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Re: Step forward and a step back...

Postby RMOlson » Sat Apr 21, 2018 10:28 pm

Thanks Mav! I ordered both a week or two ago. I have read excerpts from meeting at the river. I am looking forward to reading both in full.
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Re: Step forward and a step back...

Postby RMOlson » Tue May 01, 2018 5:44 pm

My wife read David Hatton’s Meeting at the River yesterday. She sad it has giving her a lot to think about. I asked her to read it after I finished. Hoping we will be discussing it after she Has had sometime to process.
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Re: Step forward and a step back...

Postby nudie66 » Wed May 02, 2018 9:50 pm

Praying for Tolerance to become Acceptance and then Involvement!
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Re: Step forward and a step back...

Postby RMOlson » Wed May 02, 2018 10:24 pm

Thank You
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Re: Step forward and a step back...

Postby Maverick » Sat May 05, 2018 8:13 am

RMOlson wrote:My wife read David Hatton’s Meeting at the River yesterday. She sad it has giving her a lot to think about. I asked her to read it after I finished. Hoping we will be discussing it after she Has had sometime to process.


That's awesome! I pray y'all can, too.
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